I watched this episode of Girls once and I don't remember who said it, but they said "you are not your parts".
I heard this and was like holy shit, you're right. I am not my parts. I am not the one bad thing that happened.
Neither are you.
Your sadness is not who you are.
Your heartbreak is not who you are.
The meal you binged on is not who you are.
The way your mother/father/dad/boyfriend/sister/friend treated you, is not who you are.
You are more than the parts and pieces of your life and the things that have happened to you.
You are not your job, your spouse, your family, your car or the clothes you're wearing.
You are YOU, and no one can take that away from you.
You have the power to rewrite your story at any moment--what will you write?