The cycle looks something like this:
Event (wedding, Friday night, friends in town, pool party etc)
Then: overeat too much at event
Then: Sunday night you eat your 'last meal' because tomorrow you start your new diet and you're really pumped because you are so mad at yourself for this weekend, and you feel like the fire that's burning inside of you can lead you to your goal.
Then: You last about 11-14 days before a new event arises and the cycle happens again.
Does this sound familiar?
If you could hate yourself small,/thin you'd probably be there a thousand times over now, right?
I know it sounds like it makes logical sense. If you're so upset with yourself and disappointed, that should be able to fire you through the diet so you can get through it and be smaller, right?
I know that it's starting to make sense now, that you're racking your brain for all the times you started a new plan in a hate cycle. You're smart, and I know you probably didn't even realize you were doing it until now.
You can change the conversation
The cool thing about beliefs, is that they can change, and the behavior around food can change.
It's not an overnight thing, but it's possible.
You can change the conversation in your mind that you defeating yourself in your words, workouts and meal plans, will equate to a 'better' you.
You truly can open your mind to the possibility that if that hasn't worked for you, maybe there is something else that can. Don't worry if it doesn't feel like it right now, it takes time.
That something may include work, work that you aren't use to yet. But I believe in you and know that you can handle it, because you'd like to feel at home in your body, right? I know because I was there once too.
Here are 5 things to do instead of hate yourself smaller
- Remove small/thin from the picture, find a deeper reason that you want to show up for yourself. Your body is made to change and the desire to be smaller is fleeting.
- Find a form of movement that empowers you. Not one that you are scared to go to, or hate. There are ways you can move your body that can make you feel confident, strong, empowered and actually be enjoyable. When you enjoy your movement, you remain more consistent and show up.
- Ask yourself if it may be time to break up with dieting. Think about your relationship with dieting. Has it ever made you happy? Have you ever kept the results for more than a year? Did you ever enjoy the process? It may be time to dip your toes into the waters of intuitive eating, so you can learn to trust your own body.
- Seek tools and resources that help you cultivate a sense of appreciation, love and sense of home within your body.
- Ask for help! Listen I know you've been dieting for years, it's okay to reach out to a professional, parent, friend or loved one to talk or ask for guidance.