When I first started working out after I had my son, my fitness journey was about gaining strength and most importantly confidence. I had( still have) stretch marks like crazy and my confidence was at an all time low. Though, I'd never thought highly of myself sadly. Shortly after I began my journey I found instagram, and I found the fitness community there. At first I thought it was amazing. I started following these strong women, and I was inspired. Then I let what I saw warp my mind. I saw the "ab progress photo" and thought to myself "when I have abs I'll be happy". Everything I knew that was right, keeping a good mindset, getting fit for myself, loving me for my own strength and not abs, it all went away.
I looked at myself in the mirror 100x a day, waiting to get abs. I still ate healthy and worked out normal but my mind went somewhere else. I got abs, and I posted them all the time. Before you think I'm the biggest douche on the planet just keep reading. I let my abs define me and my fitness.
That was two years ago, that was at the beginning of Strong Chicks Rock. Now you can check my instagram and you won't see ab shots. Why? Because abs don't define me. They don't make me better, or more healthy than someone else. I may have them, but who cares?
A learner you, or a you with abs, isn't a better you. It's just a different body.
Am I proud, yes. I'm very proud of myself , but I'm not proud that I let 12 inches of skin define me and SCR. Nor is that the example I want to show women, that they should strive for abs. You should strive for wellness.
It's easy to get wrapped up in social media. To see abs as the defining moment in your health and fitness journey. Abs don't mean anything though.
Your strength isn't defined by your abs, how healthy you are doesn't show in your abs. I might as well hold my pinky up and say "LOOK, look here at my pinky. See how healthy I am!!!"
Don't get me wrong, I'm pro selfie, I'm pro sharing progress with social media. If it's all done with the right mindset. Abs aren't bad at all, I love abs. What is different is how I see abs, and the role that they play--or I let them no longer play in my mind. They may be there, but I measure my healthy, and you should measure yours too, based on how you feel, your strength and your confidence without the superficial aspects.
" A Strong Chick is a woman on a mission to be the best version of herself she can be. She strives to have a healthy body and mind. She is smart with her training and what she puts into her body. She is ever learning and growing. She has chosen to take control of her life, to not just gain physical strength, but mental strength as well. She is kind, she is powerful, she is in control." -Me..Rachel Turner