Are you someone who shys away from the gym? Or maybe someone who goes, but stays away from the weight room? This is something so completly common in women unfortunately. What is it that has made you fear the gym? Is it the other people there or lack of knowledge when it comes to what to do? Theres no wrong answer, but both answers have solutions.
People use to tell me all the time (because I was dealthy afraid of the gym, like sick to my somach afraid) "Whats the worse thing that could happen?". As they asked this I created a list a mile long in my head of all the things that could happen.
What is Fear?
Here's the thing. The story we ae playing in our heads is just that. A story. You've walked into the the gym and already told yourself that you are going to fail. You've played out the situation. You know if you go over to the squat rack that someone will stare at you and make you feel bad. You already know this.
Whats the easiest way to stop the stories in our head from playing at 100mph? Realize this, fear is just an emotion. Just like happiness and excitement. We can choose to be happy, and we can choose to be fearful. It's important to know that fear isn't a man with an axe running after you. It is only an emotion we give power to. One that we 100% don't need to.
Getting Over Fear
I'm not saying that if you think of rainbows and butterflies that you'll never encounter fear. Trust me, I know fear. I suffered from serve anxiety for years. When I realized I had a choice though, to not let fear consume me. My life changed. When I feel those feelings creeping up in my mind I acknowledge them, I realize they are there and I keep going. I don't feed their thoughts, I don't plant a story. I let them come as they are, then let it go. I still may feel nervous occasionally, but I know that fear isn't real.
I know what you're thinking, well no I don't but if you were anything like me then maybe these thoughts are running through your head. "You're a trainer it's easy for you to say that" or "Yeah think happy thoughts and I can do everything I wanted..yeah right". Those are both valid thoughts, truly.
Think of this, the olympian athlete didn't just wake up one day and acquire super human strength over night. He decided he had goals, and in order to meet them he had to put in work. Even if he didn't always like it or feel comfortable he had to, if he wanted to reach the olympics.
This is the same with dealing with fear. We don't want to live a fearful life, we want to be happy and confident. Not just in the gym but in life. Evey step we take to achieve this may not always be easy and it definitely may not always be comfortable. Think of the alternative though, a life never reaching goals. Never accomplishing the things you want because you feed the story of fear to your mind.
So, lets bring it back to the gym. You've never lifted before, or maybe you have in private but never in a gym setting. That's ok. The people you see rocking it, all started out somewhere. They made mistakes and still make mistakes. You have to be ok with being new at something. You must accept that it's ok to look silly, or do something wrong. That's all part of learning and growing. Everyone in the gym from pro athletes to beginners are in there to progress. You don't reach your goal then say F it and never come back . You stay to learn and grow.
The gym is a school of fitness (I say this lightly..). Walk in knowing that you won't give power to your negative thoughts. Focus on yourself, not on others. I promise you, they are focusing on themselves..not on you!
Your Fearlessly Fit Workout
Here's a workout to take with you to the gym, each move is linked to a YouTube video that shows proper form. Keep this post up with you when you go to the gym and click the links as needed so you know what to do.
Adjust weight based on fitness level. Do 3-5 rounds of this workout, again based on your fitness level. Form is key, so if you feel your form lacking then lower your reps.
Know that you freaking rock and you can do this! You are not bound to cardio and abs. Take control of your mind.
You are a Strong Chick.